WHY CONFIDENCE MATTERS
If you know me, you have probably noticed I talk A LOT about cultivating confidence. That’s because I think confidence is one of the most important traits to develop to ensure success in ALL areas of life. Confidence gives you the ability to believe in yourself, stand up for yourself, and chase after dreams. Confidence makes you attractive. Having confidence in yourself can help you land your dream job, book that one-way flight, or even rock that two piece bikini with the extra cheeky bottoms. Confident people can walk into any room without worrying if others will like them, because they LOVE themselves
CULTIVATE UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE
How are we supposed to be confident with ourselves and the decisions we make, if we don’t even know who we are? We are always growing, changing, and adapting, so it may seem daunting to try to define who we actually are. GUESS WHAT. Even though we are forever growing, we all have core values and desires that are rooted deep inside us.
I think the best way to filter information is to write it down. I’m a list fanatic, so get your pen and paper ready. We are about to define YOU. These lists will help you define core values, interests, and goals.
- Core Values – Write down all the core values you strive to attain. Some of mine include kindness, patience, and humbleness.
- Interests – Write down what interests you. For me this includes fitness, horses, and holistic cooking.
- Goals – Write down as many goals that you can think of, both big and small. They don’t have to be in any order, just write them down as them come to you. Some of my goals include owning a farm, backpacking through Australia, and squatting 225lbs.
SET CLEAR GOALS
Confident people set goals and demolish them, regardless of how many times they have to start over. Setting clear goals not only helps keep your eye on the prize, but it also gives you confidence knowing that you have a clear, concise outline guiding you to success. I ask each of my clients to set SMART fitness/health goals, so that we can work together towards the same goal to ensure success.
Here is a guideline that I use to set SMART goals. You can and should use this guideline to plan any goal. I will use my goal to squat 225lbs as an example.
- SPECIFIC – Is this goal specific? Yes. My goal is to squat 225lbs within 6 months.
- MEASURABLE – Can you measure this goal? Yes. 225lbs is 225lbs.
- ATTAINABLE – Is this goal possible? Yes. I have a progressive program to follow.
- RELEVANT – Is this relevant to your life? Yes. I want to challenge my athletic abilities and continuously grow stronger.
- TIMELY – Is there a deadline? Yes. My goal is to squat 225lbs 6 months from now. 6 months is the deadline.
Self-acceptance is recognizing your own abilities and limitations and still accepting who you are. Self-esteem stems from self-acceptance, which means you need to accept who you are and not who you think you should be. Self-acceptance allows you to be proud of your strengths, but also brings awareness to areas you can improve. You should accept who you are, but respect yourself enough to continuously strive to be a better version of you. Remember its you vs. you. Don’t try to be someone else.
I encourage my clients to love and accept themselves at all stages of their fitness journey. You don’t have to wait until you’ve lost 30lbs to start loving yourself. If you don’t accept yourself at the beginning of your fitness journey, you probably won’t love yourself even after you’ve accomplished a weight loss goal.
- Remind yourself of your unique abilities.
- Give yourself permission to fail.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. We run our own race.
- Be kind and patient with yourself.
- Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.
Body language introduces your vibe you before you even speak. Even if you don’t feel confident, practicing confident body language can increase your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself.
“THE GYM IS INTIMIDATING AND IT SCARES ME. I DON’T KNOW WHAT IM DOING. WHAT IF PEOPLE STARE AT ME? I DON’T WANT TO EMBARRASS MYSELF!”- every new gym member ever
If I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I’d be sitting on the Waikiki Beach with coconut in hand applying disgusting amounts of sunscreen to my entire body. So your intimidated by the gym? GIRL I GOT YOU. Fake it till you make it. Follow these body language tips so you can confidently kill it in the gym. (Or anywhere really)
- Posture – Stand tall with your shoulders back and chin up. Don’t be afraid to take up space.
- Eye Contact – Making eye contact shows you are comfortable and are interested. If direct eye contact is too intimidating, try looking at a spot close to the other person’s eyes.
- Hands – Fidgeting is a sign of anxiety and nervousness. Keep your hands away from your face, out of your pockets, and keep them as still as possible.
- Handshake – a limp handshake is a sign of lack of confidence. Make sure to use a firm grip and don’t release until the other person begins to ease their grip.
- Smile – consciously smiling will create a warm glow about you and make people want to talk to you.
- Walk – Slow down your step and take longer strides. Confident people take large steps and walk with authority without appearing rushed.
- Voice – speaking quickly is a sign of nervousness. Take a big breathe and allow yourself time to speak slowly and clearly. Use a variety of tones to sound more engaging and interesting.
GAL PALS, ITS TIME TO RADIATE CONFIDENCE INSIDE AND OUTSIDE OF THE GYM.